The Traumatic Reality Of Who Is Really Hurt By Late-Term Abortion Laws
January 28 at 7:08 PM
In light of New Yorks abortion laws, I wanted to share my story for anyone that needs to hear it.
In 2006, at 21 weeks pregnant I went in to my ob/gyn for a routine ultrasound. My doctor told me they suspected my daughter had Trisomy 13. They said they needed to do an amnio to be sure. Then they asked if I wanted to terminate the pregnancy. I said, I wanted to wait until the results came back. I wasn't able to make that desicion without knowing for sure. They told me that the results would be back in 7-10 days and by that time I would be past 22 weeks and would not be allowed to have a medical abortion in my state. I had 45 minutes to make that choice. 45 minutes! I decided to wait for the results. That decision is the biggest regret of my life and I have played that conversation in my head over and over for the past 13 years
The results came back positive. Molly had a genetic chromosome disorder. Over the following weeks, I learned she had 2 holes in her heart, her brain was not formed properly, she didn't have eyes, she had a cleft palate, extra fingers and toes and barely functioning lungs. The only thing keeping her alive was me. They told me I probably wouldn't carry full term and if I did, her survival was unlikely. The truth was, Molly would suffer immensely if she lived past birth.
I carried Molly full term to 40 weeks, I gave birth with a team of doctors by my side and I held her in my arms for 31 minutes and watched my daughter suffocate to death.
Every single day after I found out the results were torture, delivery was torture, telling my children that after I had the baby, she would die was torture. Telling my family was torture. People would congratulate me on my pregnancy and I would smile and say Thank you because retelling my story over and over was torture.
FUCK ABORTION REGULATION! MEDICAL DESICIONS SHOULD BE BETWEEN THE PATIENT AND THE DOCTOR. PERIOD!
That was my personal, painful choice and it was taken from me by my government and states legislation.
The ptsd I still go through daily is real and debilitating some days. I will never get over this.
Molly was wanted. Molly was loved. My heart goes out to anyone denied 3rd trimester abortions! These are not people who just changed their minds, these are heartbreaking, gut wrenching, life changing stories and NOBODY gets to make those decisions for someone else.
If you want to learn more about 3rd trimester abortions or the courageous people who risk their lives providing compassion to women, I recommend watching the documentary, After Tiller. I put a link in the comments.
THANK YOU New York, Alaska, Colorado, New Hampshire, New Mexico, Oregon and Vermont for your compassionate laws regarding 3rd trimester abortions. Thank you for trusting women and their doctors to make these excruciatingly hard choices. Thank you for your compassion❤️
#abortionrights #oneinfour #prochoice #NARAL
*******UPDATE*********I had no idea that this post would reach so many people. THANK YOU to the beautiful people who have left messages of kindness and compassion. Your words have not gone unnoticed and you have restored my faith in humanity...honestly.
To the pro birthers on this page who felt the need to spew your pro-life rhetoric. Shame on you. Your comments are cruel and disgusting. Any "devout" church-goer who casts disparagement upon others for their lifestyles and personal choices needs to sit down and worry about what punishment your God has for you and your transgressions. For according to your scripture, all sins are equal in his eyes and only he can judge. How very ignorant of you to assume that we all have the same God, beliefs and morals. If you genuinely believe that every single life matters, then I encourage you to fight for access to affordable birth control options everywhere, to support science based sex education programs, to foster one of 687,000 children in foster care right now. I encourage you to treat these mothers and post abortion women with the same love you have for their babies, to de-stigmatize unwed mother's, to hold men accountable, to fight for a liveable wage, affordable housing and decent parental leave. I encourage you to fight and vote for affordable and available healthcare. And finally, I encourage you to maintain your credibility by caring for life beyond the womb including refugees, immigrants, orphans, addicts, minorities, poor and lgbtq+.
For your argument that "God decides who lives and dies" Honestly? Really? Save the emotional manipulation for someone else. We have made humongous strides in medical technology. With vaccinations, organ transplants, IVF, vasectomies, pacemakers, diaylasis, tubal ligations, etc.. I think it's safe to say we are beyond that old, outdated thought process.
To the assholes who believe that I wanted my baby ripped to shreds. My daughter would have had an injection administered directly into her heart through my abdomen that would have stopped it immediately. She would have died peacefully in my womb instead of gasping for air. Educate yourselves.
And finally, to the many women who have messaged me with your own stories. I am so very sorry that we all belong to this same club. My heart breaks for you and I thank you with everything I have for sharing your painful stories with me. You have helped me to heal in ways that I didn't know I needed to. You have inspired me beyond belief and have lighted a fire inside of me. I will FOREVER stand, fight and vote for women to make these hard choices for themselves and their families and for all medical desicions to stay private between families and their doctors, not at the hands of our government. Thank you❤️