Good Friends You Don't Know

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby Henry Vilas » Thu Apr 25, 2013 5:02 pm

It all comes down to what you regret, the things you did or the things you didn't do. I try to suppress all that I regret, yet sometimes whistfully recall that which I missed out on.

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby Huckleby » Thu Apr 25, 2013 5:20 pm

snoqueen wrote:

This is why it worked. If you were trying to make something else happen, the whole cool little thing wouldn't have worked.

Some people know this and some people don't, and when the ones who do cross paths, it's fun.

I feel sort of bad for all you guys who don't get this, but I suppose we all make our own realities.


I think we all get flirtation.

You're suggesting that "something else" is to ask to see the person, right? Now, how would anybody know whether it would lead to a bit of happiness or an uncomfortable rejection spoiling the "cool little thing"? And is there only one noble way to proceed?

The "good friends" of the thread title does not ring true. Which is why I asked our hero if he ever had such a "good friend" encounter with another man. He's not saying, and takes my question as jerky.

I've been there, so many times. I've had long term female good friends. And I've had love interests who I convinced myself I just wanted to be brotherly towards. Brotherly in an appalachian sense is more like it.
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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby Remember_Me » Thu Apr 25, 2013 5:22 pm

Ok. Shoe on the other foot time.

We're assuming we know what the woman in this equation is thinking.

But what if she's wondering why won't this funny, goofy, good-looking(?), gainfully employed, man take the next step and actually saying hi to me.

Maybe he's married. Or has a girlfriend. Or maybe he's gay. Or maybe he doesn't think I'm pretty. Or, or, or....

No one's saying you have to hop right into bed with her or march down the aisle tomorrow.

Just start with a hey, my name's acer btw, I work at ****** on the fifth floor as a *****... you're pretty hilarious, what's your name?

Then see what happens.

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby Huckleby » Thu Apr 25, 2013 5:25 pm

As she presses her rape whistle to her lips, you hit the button for the next elevator floor and pray you get out of there in time.

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby Remember_Me » Thu Apr 25, 2013 5:43 pm

Huckleby wrote:As she presses her rape whistle to her lips, you hit the button for the next elevator floor and pray you get out of there in time.


You joke, but unfortunately I think that's the way a lot of guys feel these days. They don't want to appear "creepy"... which I read recently is the number one word men hate and fear the most.

No wonder online porn and prostitution continues to proliferate.

We're all scared of each other.

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby acereraser » Fri Apr 26, 2013 12:31 am

Huckleby wrote:The "good friends" of the thread title does not ring true. Which is why I asked our hero if he ever had such a "good friend" encounter with another man. He's not saying, and takes my question as jerky.


I didn't take your question as jerky, more like barking up the wrong tree. I have had many "good friend" encounters with men, probably more, now that I think about it. I would say that generally, men are more open to a quick and unexpected meeting of the minds with unknown men, for obvious reasons.

The other reason I was holding back was I was trying to keep the thread in the abstract, rather than just about my personal situation. This is the kind of discussion I like to have here with my fellow Forons, "Aren't people funny animals?" as opposed to "Look at me!" Oh well. I am happily married to a woman, we have three kids. The farthest thing from my mind is doing anything to change that, and I mean that; until this thread went down that road, I had honestly never thought about escalating my encounters with the woman in my building. Now that it has come up, she is physically attractive enough for my tastes, with a personality to match, but this is irrelevant. Before any other aspersions are cast, I am not wanting for silly fun or anything else in my marital or parental life. I choose to have fun anywhere I can, is all.

It is in my genetic code. My dad was possibly the friendliest person I have ever met. The family joke was that we would be on vacation, away from home, and we would regularly have to drag him away from a twenty minute conversation started when he asked someone for directions. It took me years to be comfortable enough in my skin to talk to strangers in that manner, but I am very grateful I was able to learn that from him. Working at a liquor store in South Minneapolis also served to work on the craft, as it were.

Some people just don't seem free to laugh at a moment's notice, but many do, some more than others, and I relish the opportunity to engage those folks. That's what I meant about kicks being harder to find, other than the tawdry urge to quote the lyric. As I get older, there are fewer opportunities for laughs with random folks, especially in the sphere of work. I don't think this is atypical.

This discussion could turn totally meta, and we could start in about why people love to post on an internet forum. Not tonight, for me anyway. But thanks for calling me your hero, Huckleby. I think we all get flirtation. Tee hee hee.

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby Huckleby » Fri Apr 26, 2013 2:09 am

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I'm going on a wild but strong hunch: is this the woman you met in the elevator?

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby Huckleby » Fri Apr 26, 2013 2:20 am

acereraser wrote: I relish the opportunity to engage those folks ... As I get older, there are fewer opportunities for laughs with random folks, especially in the sphere of work. I don't think this is atypical..
I too value those short interactions with people you have a chance encounter with. On a related note, I've often said I've stayed in Madison not because of the friends I have here but because of the many acquaintances, all those people that you share just enough past with that you have an excuse to connect for a few moments when you run into them.

As to age, keeping with the oldies theme, I'll echo Mick: "what a drag it is getting old." A lot of people become more cautious as they age, they rely on old relationships, typically dwindling in number, and don't want to risk intimacy with semi-strangers passing through the night. Social opportunities in general do go down a bit. But hell, I know plenty of older folks who are still mixing it up - some of them as ancient as 40.

BTW, that woman is one of the Bush daughters, whose lovely visage fascinated me moments ago.

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby bdog » Fri Apr 26, 2013 5:50 am

Ace I think you and I are on similar wavelengths as the post below is the funniest thing I've ever seen on TDPF. But the two of us together? Forget it!

acereraser wrote:To be fair, Rick Perry also models Haggar slacks for JCPenney. That's a lucrative gig.

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby bdog » Fri Apr 26, 2013 5:56 am

And to address the original topic, I've always felt like Meade is a good friend. And I have no plans to make a move on him either.

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Re: Good Friends You Don't Know

Postby acereraser » Mon Apr 29, 2013 9:05 pm

Thanks for the compliment, bdog. I have to admit, I was fairly lost for words when you Venn Diagrammed me in with Meade so soon after the NCAA tournament. However, further rationalization has gotten me to feel secure in my group of Forons bdog Will Not Seek Out For Romantic Relationships. I promise to respect your wishes.


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