GenieU wrote:Yeah, I've just said things along the lines of "A bigger, better deal came along and its an opportunity for me..." This line of bullshit is hard to argue with because as Americans we are all supposed to be motivated mainly by the Dollar.
Leaving a job is wonderful chance to be sadisticly cold-hearted: you say your boss is presently stressed? What a great time to pile on some more! See if any cracks develope in the facade! Be detached and ready to enjoy the ensuing drama. And ask yourself "How would they be doing Me if they were terminating my position?"
Quitting a job on your own volition is one of the last vestiges of freedom left.
I don't know the best way to recoup bennys-In the long run it won't matter much. Can you threaten to sue if they don't make good? Anyone know? or would this just create more headache's?
You can leverage the timing and information in your favor. And add to his stress in th process.
"About that raise--I know you're stressed right now, but it HAS been six months, will that be retroactive?"
If he says no, it lets you know where you stand. If he says yes, you secure the cash. If he puts you off, say:
"The reason I ask is because, well, finances are tight and the family needs to budget for THIS fiscal year... (long pause for response(and if none comes)) ... and I've been offered another job, so I do need to know where I stand with that raise, its retroactive-ness, and last year's review--so I can adequately weigh my loyalty here against this new opportunity, esp in light of what's best for my family."
It should motivate him to at least do the review--and the retroactive raise. If he blows you off, it at least increases his stress--and you can leave with a clear conscience. Get your retroactive cash, cash the check, and give your notice.
Some companies payout for vacation time. Just find out by reading th manual or asking somebody else. If they don't, take your vacation time before quitting, with a clear conscience. It's your time. Time is money, and you'll be paid for it--paid to look for a new job or prepare for the one you've just been offered, or just get stuff done at home. Hell, you could even start your new job--and go back to the old one to quit on the spot if you feel mal-treated.