charliedon'tsurf wrote: aaron wrote: narcoleptish wrote:
square wrote:tell me, again, what makes you a better person than mr. unpretentious, dirty sweatpants at woodmans? .
Because I didn't just decide to give up, that's why. Because I didn't keep myself looking and dressing decent just long enough to find a mate, only to let myself go ...
I totally agree, 100%. You see people today (in this country, anyway) going to church or to a fairly nice restaurant looking as if they were going out to do some yardwork...
Sorry, but I canÃ¢??t stomach your inherent bourgeoisie, metro-sexual smugness and derision. Your irrational, overpriced fashion preferences and sneering at those who donÃ¢??t agree strikes me as progressive and as intelligent as redneck troglodytes ...
Interesting point. I may very well be misinterpreting everyone, but here's my take:
I am basically in the "let's all try to look halfway decent" crowd. I don't feel like an elitist, because I don't equate looking decent with spending a fortune on name-brand clothes. What I was picturing was simple, basic skills like wearing the right size (or close to it), keeping your clothes reasonably clean, avoiding t-shirts with the words 'tits' or 'big johnson' on them and basic grooming stuff. There are lots of people who have 3 kids, shop at Wal-Mart proudly, live in small towns, and yet manage to meet these simple expectations. There are also folks who buy only top name stuff, and still manage to look like they live out of their cars and ran out of their meds weeks ago.
That said, people do tend to judge a book by its cover, whether that's right or wrong. A number of times I've done parallel activities in almost opposite clothes (three-piece suit vs. what I was wearing when I saw Cannibal Corpse last November). And you know what? When you're wearing a suit, people are more likely to listen to you like you know what's up. Like you're some sort of authority figure, regardless of the fact that you smoked a huge bowl less than an hour ago. And if you're wearing combat boots, cargo pants, a dog collar, and a t-shirt depicting a skull with a screw being driven though the forehead, people don't seem to view you the same way, even if you've been published in half a dozen peer-reviewed journals.
Those of us who are able (financially as well as having what it takes to iron a shirt) to dress well should reap the benefits without guilt. There's nothing wrong with being attractive, smart, rich, or talented. But using it to make others feel bad is just a bitch move. Putting others down doesn't raise you up at all, it makes you more of an ass then anyone. Be a shining example of awesomeness, not a stuck-up douche.
So on that note, dress as nicely as you can if you care about what other people think. Or just look like you're all about Freeganism and give the well-dressed the finger, but be prepared to get the finger back figuratively. Mostly.