New York's AG came out with a detailed opinion saying NY was legally bound to honor same sex marriage licenses issued in other states, but same sex marriage was at this time not legal in NY. He practically gave people a road map showing where legal pressure needed to be applied to make s-s marriages legal. He made it clear he personally supported s-s marriage, but at this time the law wasn't there. In NY his opinion and information was received as most helpful by those who want to see marriage rights extended to same sex couples.
We need somebody to do the same for the state of Wisconsin before the legislature passes this stupid state constitutional amendment. Civil disobedience is only part of a long term strategy to challenge and change the law. Civil disobedience is first of all an act of conscience, and second a public demonstration intended to awaken the conscience of others. In itself it does not amount to legal change, and is not the sole course of action open to those who wish to see legal change.
If Parisi wants to help secure gay marriage, his only option is not to start issuing licenses. If he sees the personal risk as not worth the gain, he may have a point because all the s-s marriage licenses he issues could well be invalidated in a few months or years. While there is personal and collective satisfaction in successfully flouting a distasteful law, there's more to the project than what happens in the county clerk's office.
If other people want to see gay marriage happen, there is plenty of organizing, legal research, strategizing, fund-raising, persuasion and demonstration, test-case-building, leadership, and more to be done. Everybody who wants to see this happen can find a role to play -- it's not limited simply to opening an office and filling out certificates.
I mentioned this elsewhere, but the example of desegregation and the long and difficult years of organizing that preceded Brown v the Board of Education is an instructive study. A lot of groundwork has to be laid before a definitive ruling is issued or a new law written. The conservatives are trying to ace everybody out by passing a man-woman-marriage constitutional amendment before this process can play out.