Never have understood the fascination with grits as I've always thought they were just yucky. And yes, I've lived in the deep south twice now and they are still just a version of malt-o-meal which is insipid stuff at best. There are already way better things you can do with that cheese and those shrimp than to degrade them with grits. Also believe sausage gravy is an abomination, could hardly choke it down the first time I had it.
But to each their own I suppose. As long as step-daughter-in-law doesn't present me with sausage gravy again like it's some sort of high treat, I'll be OK